The Honesty Box - Q&A with Ronke

Ronke
25
Model from South London

How would you describe yourself?
Silly, funny and playful. I love dancing around and singing all the time. I’ve got bubbly energy.

How would your friends describe you?
My friends would describe me as fun, loyal and gorgeous.

What’s single life been like?
I’ve been single for two years. The journey has definitely been up and down. Sometimes you think, “This could be my boyfriend”, and then he then reminds you you're not his girlfriend. I've been going on some dates. I've been actively looking for love, because I'm a lover girl at heart. I'm waiting for the universe to give me my boyfriend.

What makes you a lover girl?
I love love. Unfortunately, sometimes it loves me back for, like, two months and then sometimes it just disappears. I just love, love. And I love to care about people.

What do you love about love?
One of the best things I love about love is that security of being seen by someone that is not your friends or your family, but you can grow with them to become best friends and also like family. I just love the fact someone is going to be there for me and obviously very good looking as well.

Have you been in love before?
It's such a beautiful feeling and I feel like everyone deserves to experience love in this life. Love is such a beautiful drug. When I am in love, I just want to be around that person 24/7. I just want to breathe the same air as you. To go on errands with you. Just all the little stuff you think you can do alone. I want to be there and experience that with the person I love the most.

What are you like in a relationship?
When I'm in a relationship, I'm intense for all the right reasons. I'm going to be your best friend and your biggest supporter. I'm going to be there for you. When you're having a bad day, you know you can call me. I'm going to try my best to cheer you up. I'm also very attentive. I'm definitely going to try my best to make a man feel good about himself.

What does it mean to be intense?
I definitely feel I can be intense when it comes to love, but I think that's a good thing. For example, there was a guy I fancied in secondary school, and I joined the basketball team because I knew he was playing basketball. Sometimes in life you have to position yourself for what you want. And I got him, which I was really happy about.

Have you ever cheated?
No, I haven't cheated on anyone. I'm a loyal woman.

Have you ever been cheated on?
I found out an ex was cheating because he uploaded a picture online that had the background of a girl's room, which was definitely not mine. Then when I confronted him about it, he cropped the picture and then re-uploaded it as if the background was going to change or I was going to somehow kind of forget that was not my room. That was very uncomfortable.

What do you hope to get out of the experience?
The best thing I would love to get out of this experience is definitely finding a boyfriend! That would really be amazing. I just really want to find someone I can grow with and learn from. That's really a big thing for me. I really want to learn from a man. Finding love will definitely be so perfect for me because I am a lover girl and I just love love.

Describe your perfect match?
My perfect man is definitely taller than me because I am tall and I love being in heels. I want someone with a really great smile. Personality wise, I definitely want someone really bubbly, because I'm a bubbly person. But at the same time, I do want someone that is a bit quiet, mysterious, keeps them themselves to themselves. But with me, he's able to open up and be my twin flame.

Do you have any dating red flags?
There are a few red flags I have come to see in a few guys I've known. One is if you're not attentive – to me is a red flag. Number two, is if you don't have people to hold you accountable to say you're in the wrong. Loads of guys egg each other on instead of telling your boy “Actually, you were wrong”. And number three, would be someone that is not caring. It's so important as a man to be very caring.

What are your turn ons?
One of the things I'm quite into is someone that really likes my feet. Because that to me is a correlation of him worshipping the ground that I walk on. That's really, really important to me. Someone that thinks I'm important and the centre of their life.

How important is honesty in a relationship?
Honesty is definitely very important in a relationship. I've learned that through past relationships. At times I haven't been the most honest person and I've seen how that has affected my partner and vice versa. I've seen how honesty has affected me, so I definitely feel honesty is a core foundation to being open and having the best version of love.

How good are you at spotting a liar?
I'm quite good at spotting a liar. It comes down to loads of different things, like your body language. And some things are just clear lies… If one plus one does not equal two, then someone's a liar.

What’s the most elaborate lie you’ve told?
When I was staying at an ex-boyfriend's house, I definitely told my best friend, “If my mum texts, you say, I'm at your house. I told her I'm going to be at your house for two days, so just make sure we're both on the same page of the lie, or else I'm going to be caught out”. Just making sure the time frame is in sync and everything's kind of perfect.

Are you prepared to step on toes in Truetopia?
I'm not really afraid to step on anyone's toes because at the end of the day, we're all in this position to find what we want. If I have to position myself in the eyesight of someone that is with somebody else – unless it’s officially – then I will do so. Because if I think I'm a better match for them than someone else, then I'll be stopping myself from finding someone for me.

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