The Honesty Box - Q&A with Jessie-May

Jessie-May

27
Marketing Manager from Somerset

How would your friends describe you?
My friends would describe me as bubbly, funny, a bit dry, and a little bit opinionated.

What are you opinionated about?
When it comes to dating, I have quite traditional dating values, but with a bit of an iOS upgrade. For instance, I love it when the guy pays, and I appreciate that, but I will sometimes just run and quickly go get the bill. Or sometimes I’d like to take him away on holiday. If he's lucky enough, who knows? No one's ever made it that far yet, but there's hope.

How would you describe yourself?
I would describe myself as confident. Intelligent to some degree – I still don't know my left and right, but I'm working on it – and overall just a friendly, loving, bubbly, caring person. And slightly dramatic.

What would your exes say about you?
I think my exes would describe me as confident. Friendly, passionate and so indecisive. All my exes say how indecisive I am. I cannot make a decision for the life of me.

How many relationships have you had?
In my eyes, I would say a relationship has to be longer than a year. Anything less than that doesn't count – I’d maybe just call that situationship. So I would say I've had two relationships, but, maybe like a few others. Who's counting?

Do you enjoy single life?
I went through a whole phase of just single. That was all I wanted to be. Staying single for the foreseeable. But I've done that now. I really have done that. Now I do want to find somebody. I want to be in a relationship that lasts over a year. Please. I find the whole dating scene entirely exhausting. I hate it so much. I need help or Jesus at this point.

How did your last relationship… sorry, situationship end?
He was lovely, his family were lovely, everyone was really lovely. But we just didn't see eye to eye on a few different things. It was my friend's 30th birthday, and we had gone to her birthday. I hadn't seen her in a very long time and I wanted to stay out celebrate with her. However, he was tired and wanted to go home. So we went home. And then I may or may not have just snuck out and rejoined the party. I just NEEDED to be back in the party. One thing led to another, and I may or may not have stayed out for quite a while just being with my friends. When he woke up, I was not there in his bed to his amazement, and he broke up with me.

Was it a good night at least?
I had a fantastic night. I had the best time. I was able to catch up with all of my friends again, and we just put the world to rights. And then my world slightly crumbled a little bit. I really should have gone about it in a different way, but I don’t regret it.

Have you ever been cheated on?
I have been cheated on twice by one guy. The first time he cheated on me, I found out because women's gut instincts are just on par. I found a really long hair. It definitely wasn’t his mother's. It wasn’t his dad's. It wasn’t his dog's, which he actually blamed it on. Cringe, I know. I swiftly broke up with him. Then six or seven months later, he was like, “I am still thinking about you”… You know, the whole script. Stupidly, I took him back. He moved in with me and was living with me in my apartment. But then I had a couple of people send me some pictures of him and his ex sitting in a country pub, which was so fun for me. Instead of this time around being whiny and crying, I decided to pack up all his nice bits and send them to charity.

How did being cheated on make you feel?
Being cheated on at first it really did lower my self-esteem. It made me become way less confident in myself. However, upon reflection and upon just sitting with myself a little bit more, I realised that the problem is not me. It was all him. So that's on him. The door is closed on that feeling, and I don't like to bring that into my new relationships.

Have you ever ghosted someone?
I ghost people all of the time. It's a regular occurrence and I don't feel sorry for it. I would say I've ghosted well over 100 people. I don't feel sorry for it because the people that I ghost are setting themselves up for a ghost.

Have you ever been in love?
I thought that I was in love with a couple of my exes. But having thought about it more recently, I've come to terms with the fact that it wasn't love. It was more lust than anything.

What do you think about dating apps?
I don't do dating apps. When I do dating apps, I have them for all of two hours, and that is me done. That's it. They're deleted again. Nine times out of ten, I meet dates through social media.

Are you good at figuring out people on social media?
I am such a great detective on social media and so are my friends. If we need to know what this man had for breakfast in the morning, trust me. We will find it. I will find out everything. His shoe size, his cousin, who he was last in a relationship with, how long it was, how long it lasted. I will know the whole shebang.

How do you tell when someone is lying?
I feel their body language changes completely towards you. Because they know that they're doing something wrong. I feel their whole energy and persona fully changes. As I say, I have been with somebody that's cheated, and I knew before he even told me.

What’s your type?
So looks wise, I tend to go for very pretty boys. Pretty faces, nice clothes, clear skin, nice teeth, tall. Handsome, pretty, but still a little bit rugged. I mean, I don't know where a guy like this is going to come from, but he best arrive soon. Please.

When you say tall, what are you thinking?
Height is so important to me. I do like a tall guy. They've got to be over five foot nine. Anything less than that, it's a no from me. I cannot wear heels. That's going to ruin so many outfits. Sorry, guys.

And what about personality type?
Personality wise, I absolutely would die for somebody that is just loyal through and through. Confident, not arrogant. If you're arrogant, I can't deal with it. Someone who knows what he wants in life and he's going after it. He doesn't play games. I'm too mature and too old now to be playing these silly games.

Are you looking for someone with family values?
Family is so truly important. I love a solid family unit. Christmas is my favourite time of year, so I imagine us all around the Christmas table, just loving life. Yes, please.

Would you like to have a family of your own?
I am looking for somebody that wants children. I would say within the next five years. Who knows, but that's my preference.

Do you have any dating red flags?
How many how many red flags do you want me to list? Maybe we'll go with the top three. First one is, I'm not like a big poster on social media, but if you're trying to purposefully hide me from your social media. Red flag! 

Number two is if he eats with his mouth open. Red flag! Why are you doing that in a public space? No. Refrain. 

Number three is if he doesn't smell good. That's a huge red flag for me, because why are you not walking out of your house wanting the whole world to smell how good you smell instead? You're not doing that. Weird.

And what are your turn ons?
My turn ons are somebody that is emotionally ready and available. If we get in an argument, they'll sit down and listen to what I have to say. I do like a guy that isn't afraid to hug you and be around you in a public space. Another turn on for me would be dress sense. If they dress spectacularly well. And funniness. I feel like you could laugh somebody into bed.

Are you good at spotting liars?
I'm sensational at spotting a liar. I’m like an FBI agent. You know the card game Bullshit? I love that game. I'm really good at that. In an instant I will know if you're lying or not.

Are you looking forward to what The Honesty Box could reveal about your match?
Normally it is just me figuring out if a guy is lying or not. However, this time it is not just me, there is The Honesty Box test. How fun! Can’t wait!

Are you normally honest in relationships?
I've not told loads of big lies in relationships. The odd one or two white lies. Things like if he asked did you do any online shopping today and I’ll just say “no babes, couldn’t be me!”

Would you say you have good gut instinct?
My gut has been very good to me whenever I’ve needed her. And I love her. She's great. And I just hope that she continues delivering these little inklings to me and we'll have fun.

Do you think you can fool The Honesty Box?
I feel like I am going to give fooling The Honesty Box a good solid go. I have a great poker face, so I'm definitely going to be putting it to the test in there.

Who are hoping to meet in Truetopia?
I am ready to meet my Prince Charming. But maybe not like a Prince Charming. More like the guy that trains him to be Prince Charming. You know, with all the swords and stuff. Because he's going to be rough and ready. Rugged. We can fight our battles together, and we're going to win them. I'm ready for him. Come my way. I'm here.

Do you have a tell that gives away when you’re lying?
Well, if I told you my tell when I'm lying, then how am I going to fool anyone…?

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The Honesty Box starts Monday 28 April at 9pm on E4.

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