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In just a handful of days, the housemates already have their regrets, but what purpose do they serve?
With all the tantrums, fights and, um, physical activity taking place in the House, it's no surprise there's been more than a few regrets as a result.
Take the first eviction. As soon as they decided together to evict Hasan, regret and guilt swept through the house like a case of bad guts.
What caused Caroline the most distress was going against her instincts by nominating
Shaneen rather than Hasan, in order to spite Tracey. "It's really bad,"
she said, wiping away her tears. "I only picked Hasan because Tracey picked
the opposite."
And therein lies a truism about regrets - acting against your real feelings,
your true self will often end in regret. Being true to yourself, however, rarely
will.
Tommy and Tracey were also remorseful about Hasan's departure, even though they didn't nominate him. "I want him back," said Tracey, while Tommy announced: "I'm dead gutted," wiping away the tears from under a towel. This is possibly the most futile type of regret as neither had done anything to facilitate the situation and neither could have done anything to stop it.
Shaneen even regretted being allowed to stay, knowing her presence in the house wasn't wholly welcome. "Tommy said he was gutted that it was Hasan. I was in the room and that upset me," she said.
But the biggest outpouring of regret came from Jade. As soon as she and Tommy had finished getting busy under the duvet together, she fled the bedroom in floods of tears declaring; "My mum's going to be so ashamed."
This is the most potent form of regret because not only is there a sense of unhappiness about past actions, but also a dread about the potential future consequences.
Understandable though it is, constructive it certainly isn't.
However, regretting something can inspire a person to make the best of the resulting situation. When Jade and Tommy rose the following morning, Tommy was clearly feeling remorseful about what had happened, as he sat on the end of his bed with his head in his hands.
Later he admitted to his previous night's bed partner: "I feel well guilty." But rather than allowing them both to dwell on their regrets, Jade stamped it out. "I don't want you to feel guilty," she told him. "I don't want there to be an atmosphere between us." And with that she managed to make the best of an awkward situation.
So despite having the biggest regrets of all the housemates, Jade managed to turn those feelings round the most successfully. There's a valuable lesson in there. After all, the fact that Edith Piaf's song "Je Ne Regrette Rien" is such a classic, is because of its positive message.
Regret, like guilt can be extremely destructive - that is, until the person
who is feeling it has the strength to turn it into something constructive.
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