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Fran
Welland, assistant producer at the BBC, on how to cope when bullying gets
physical |
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How
did the bullying begin? |
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I
was about 10 years old when people started threatening me at school
they would follow me home and jump me on the narrow path at the corner
of the playing field where no-one could see. The thought of going up there
now makes me shiver. |
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Why
do you think you were picked on? |
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I
always found it hard to fit in with everyone. I'd end up spending time
with the class 'swot' and wish I was interesting to the popular ones.
Now, I wish I could have just realised that I enjoyed her company, I liked
her and she liked me. It got worse when one day, I saw a couple of popular
girls hiding from a teacher at break. The teacher saw me and asked if
I knew where they were. I glanced under the benches, they were discovered
and from then on, I was a snitch and easy game. |
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How
did you react? |
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I
was terrified. It was the first and only time in my life when I've had
the threat of real violence over me. |
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Did
you get any help from anyone? |
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My
sister was in the big school, next door. She found me in tears one day
and I told her what was happening. Bless her, she came down on her own
the next day at dinner break and told them that if they picked on me,
she'd pick on them. It stopped and later in my school life, those same
girls wanted to be friends with me. |
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| What would you say to anyone being bullied now? | ||||
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the bullying is violent, or you fear that it might become violent, tell
someone older who you trust a teacher, if you can, or an older brother/sister.
Through it all, make positive choices about your life whose company
you enjoy, what music you like, what telly programmes to watch, what subjects
you enjoy then live them, no matter what anyone else says. If you
take part in things you don't like at the expense of those you do, just
for the sake of appearances, then you'll be even more miserable. Remember
no-one has the right to make you feel frightened or useless. Grit your teeth,
ignore it or tell someone who can change it: don't let it change you. |
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