Recent advances in DNA and genetic engineering have jolted the lesbian and gay community where many fear the repercussions of the possibility of choosing not only the gender but the sexuality of an offspring. What would happen if the mainstream-unacceptable butch dyke and camp queen gene were isolated and eradicated in years to come? Could people be 'de-gayed'?

The survey adds important data to this debate. More men believe they were 'born gay' than suddenly felt compelled to wear pink. Most lesbians however, believe they chose to be lesbian, or cite a combination of nature and nurture from social pressures. Either the camp queen gene is more stubborn, or feminism and arguments for gender fluidity have exerted a greater influence on women's beliefs. Women have more to lose in a patriarchal society, where becoming lesbian divorces them from financial dependence on a higher-earning male.

For mothers, who remain the primary nurturers, coming out also affects their offspring. Only 12% of survey respondents have children, but more than a quarter would like to have children in the future. London lesbians and gay men in the North East have the greatest longing to become parents. What about organising a sperm donation weekend?

Significantly a large number of gays and lesbians knew they were gay when they became parents. In the 20-29 age bracket, 47% of men knew they were gay when they became a dad, knocking on the head the notion that a real dad can't be a gay dad. The 50-59 year old age group record the same percentage. Numbers rise higher among the over 60s, perhaps reflecting the social pressure to marry and have kids in their formative years in the 1950s and '60s. This increase, although slightly lower than for gay men, is also seen for lesbians.

It is evident that the gay community can't make you gay but can make you happy. Social nurturing by the lesbian and gay community is thriving and meets many people's expectations. Older lesbians are particularly well supported by the community, which suggests a vast and various life awaits beyond the clubs. London may have the best reputation for clubs and pubs, but Welsh lesbians and gay men in the North West appreciate their community more.