Important Reminders

• Remember that 'super parents' don't exist. Just do what you can, when you can. Be gentle on yourself.



• There is more than one way to support your children. Choose the things that you feel most comfortable with.



• Accept that some things just can't be 'made better' in a short space of time.



• Talk to children using words they understand and ask questions to check they have understood you.



• Give information a bit at a time if your children are younger. Pieces of the 'jigsaw puzzle' can be put together over time to make the complete picture.



• Show children how you are feeling: it helps them to know that it's OK to show their feelings too.



• Encourage children to ask questions and keep answering them, even if it's for the 100th time.



• Answer questions honestly and simply, and be willing to say 'I don't know'.



• Try to find ways in which children can be involved.



• Keep talking about the person who has died.



• Trust yourself and your instincts: you haven't forgotten how to parent your child.



• Look after yourself too.

For more information, advice and support, contact Winston's Wish for a copy of their booklet Child's Grief. Helpline 08452 03 04 05 Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.

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