the new rules of sex and sexual fantasy
by Harriet Yudkin and Jamie Dibdin
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help and info
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organisations
British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy
PO Box 13686
London SW20 9ZH
Tel: 020 8543 2707
E-mail: info@basrt.org.uk
Website: www.basrt.org.uk
National specialist charity for sexual and relationship therapy. Can provide details of psychosexual clinics and qualified sex therapists. Visit the website to locate a BASRT member in your area.
Couple Counselling Scotland
18 York Place
Edinburgh EH1 3EP
Tel: 0845 119 6088
Helpline: 01382 640340 (Thurs 2pm-4pm)
E-mail: enquiries@couplecounselling.org
Website: www.couplecounselling.org
Exists to promote, develop and co-ordinate a confidential counselling service for people in marriage and other intimate personal relationships. There are 14 Couple Counselling services across Scotland – visit the website to find details of the service in your area. The counsellors are fully trained volunteers who work part time and provide counselling for a wide range of people, regardless of race, religion, marital status or sexual orientation. Some services have additional counselling centres in their region and some also offer a Sexual and Relationship Therapy Service and/or a telephone helpline.
Institute of Psychosexual Medicine
12 Chandos Street
Cavendish Square
London W1G 9DR
Tel: 020 7580 0631
E-mail: ipm@ipm.org.uk
Website: www.ipm.org.uk
Psychosexual medicine is concerned with understanding how emotional factors can interfere with sexual performance and enjoyment. Types of problems successfully managed include: chronic pelvic pain, genital pain, lack of orgasm and loss of libido. Members of the public requiring help with sexual problems can send a SAE to the Institute, or e-mail, to receive details of local members.
London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard
PO Box 7324
London N1 9QS
Helpline: 020 7837 7324
E-mail: admin@llgs.org.uk
Website: www.llgs.org.uk
Confidential helpline providing access to information, support and referral to lesbians and gay men or anyone who needs to consider lesbian or gay issues.
websites
Sexual Fantasy
www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_fantasy.htm
An article on female sexual fantasy which examines the misconception that women are less sexual than men, and goes on to list the common scenarios that are incorporated into women's fantasies.
Society for Human Sexuality
www.sexuality.org
Produced by a social and educational organisation whose purpose is to promote understanding and appreciation for the many forms of adult intimate relationships and consensual sexual expression. Devoted solely to sexuality education and information.
The Power of Sexual Fantasy
www.bbc.co.uk/health/sex/enjsex_fantasy.shtml
BBC article discussing what sexual fantasies are, the most common ones for men and women, and the benefits of fantasising. Includes a link to a 'Learn to fantasise' exercise.
Cliterati.co.uk
www.cliterati.co.uk
Offering women free sexual fantasies, advice and features. The fantasies are all consensual, don't include under-age activity and are divided into straight, lesbian and bi, submission and domination, group and taboo.
reading
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Best Erotic Fantasies: How to Enjoy and Understand the Sex in Your Head by Harold Litten (Factor Press, 2000) |
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Exploring Your Sexual Self: a Guided Journal by Joan Mazza (North Light Books, 2001) |
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How to cope with doubts about your sexual identity by Fiona Hill (Mind, 1999) |
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Men in Love by Nancy Friday (Arrow, 2003) |
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My Secret Garden: Women's sexual fantasies by Nancy Friday (Quartet Books, 2001) |
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Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction by Kimberly Young (1st Books Library, 2001) |
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Harriet Yudkin is a sexual health adviser
Jamie Dibdin is a clinical psychologist
(October 2003, resources updated February 2005)
