the thrill of sexual fantasy
by John Illman
help and info
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organisations
Relate
Herbert Gray College
Little Church Street
Rugby CV21 3AP
Tel: 0845 456 1310 (to find your nearest Relate)
Relateline: 0845 130 4010 (Mon-Fri 9.30am-4pm)
Relate Direct appointments line: 0845 130 4016 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm)
E-mail: enquiries@relate.org.uk
Website: www.relate.org.uk
The largest relationship counselling organisation in the UK. Offers counselling,
psychosexual therapy, and other services to help those experiencing difficulties in any
adult couple relationship. Some branches of Relate offer individual counselling to
young people. Relateline is for couples experiencing emotional crisis who wish to talk
things through with an experienced Relate counsellor. Relate Direct is a telephone
counselling service (see website for more details, including costs).
Couple Counselling Scotland
18 York Place
Edinburgh EH1 3EP
Tel: 0845 119 6088
Helpline: 01382 640340 (Thurs 2pm-4pm)
E-mail: enquiries@couplecounselling.org
Website: www.couplecounselling.org
Exists to promote, develop and co-ordinate a confidential counselling service for people in marriage and other intimate personal relationships. There are 14 Couple Counselling services across Scotland – visit the website to find details of the service in your area. The counsellors are fully trained volunteers who work part time and provide counselling for a wide range of people, regardless of race, religion, marital status or sexual orientation. Some services have additional counselling centres in their region and some also offer a Sexual and Relationship Therapy Service and/or a telephone helpline.
British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy
PO Box 13686
London SW20 9ZH
Tel: 020 8543 2707
E-mail: info@basrt.org.uk
Website: www.basrt.org.uk
National specialist charity for sexual and relationship therapy. Can provide details of psychosexual clinics and qualified sex therapists. Visit the website to locate a BASRT member in your area.
websites
Sexual Fantasy
www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_fantasy.htm
An article on female sexual fantasy which examines the misconception that women are less sexual than men, and goes on to list the common scenarios that are incorporated into women's fantasies.
Fantasies for Women
www.cliterati.co.uk
Offering women free sexual fantasies, advice and features. The fantasies are all consensual, don't include under-age activity and are divided into straight, lesbian and bi, submission and domination, group and taboo.
Stress Busting Fantasies
www.stressbusting.co.uk/articles/news_fantasies.asp
An article that claims that the way to beat stress is to conjure up torrid fantasies – 'the wilder the better'.
The Power of Sexual Fantasy
www.bbc.co.uk/health/sex/enjsex_fantasy.shtml
BBC article discussing what sexual fantasies are, the most common ones for men and women, and the benefits of fantasising. Includes a link to a 'Learn to fantasise' exercise.
reading
First Love, First Sex: A practical guide to relationships by Kaye Wellings (HarperCollins, 1986)
A modern and down-to-earth book for teenagers offering both technical and practical advice.
Get this book
Harold Litten's Best Erotic Fantasies by Harold Litten (Factor Press, 2000)
The author explains how to enjoy and understand the sex in your head, how to enhance your fantasy life and have better, more fulfilling fantasies.
Get this book
Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex: What you must know to be sexually literate by June Reinisch with Ruth Beasley (Penguin, 1990) New edition available
Features hundreds of answers to the questions Americans most often ask about sex and related issues.
Get this book
Men in Love by Nancy Friday (Arrow, 2003)
This historic study features the dreams, fantasies and fetishes that excite and obsess men today.
Get this book
My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday (Quartet Books, 2001)
A groundbreaking study of female sexuality, this book discusses a wide range of sexual fantasies from dozens of women.
Get this book
Sexual Fantasies by Suzie Hayman (Carlton Books, 2002)
Describes common sexual fantasies and explains how these fantasies can open up a new dimension of sexual pleasure.
Get this book
Sensual Pleasures by Susan Quilliam (Marshall Editions, 1999)
This guide to sexuality explores how upbringing, past relationships and cultural norms can affect women's ability to sustain relationships.
Get this book (out of print, but might be available secondhand)
(updated November 2002, resources updated February 2005)
