girls who like boys… and girls
by Melanie Ashby
honesty's the best policy
The main thing is to be as honest with partners as you can. This does mean, though, that you have to deal with being 'queer' – and with all the stigmas attached. If you're afraid of having a same-sex experience, and you stay 'in the closet', it's not going to help your relationships. Experimentation is fine, as long as you make it clear what's in it for the other person.
Ultimately, you'll have to 'come out'. This can be a surprise for friends who've known you as either straight or gay – but they get over it pretty quick. I haven't told my parents yet, which I'm not happy about. It's something I'm working up to.
Sex-wise, being bisexual's a good deal for you and your partner... you can 'borrow' from sexual experiences with men and with women, learning how to give and get the best. However, as for people of all persuasions, remember safe sex, particularly if you're sleeping with different partners.
Finally, as you 'come out' you'll find others will tell you their experiences or fantasies. You may find yourself providing a counselling service for friends with bi urges. Respect those that insist they're fully straight or gay. That's the way they feel. But the way you feel is fine too.
is it true?
some people think…
Bisexuals have a ball, getting the best of both worlds, and a second-helping of sex life.
the truth is…
Being bisexual doesn't mean you fancy everyone, and bisexuals aren't constantly 'up for it'.
some people think…
It's okay to be gay (they're born that way), but bisexuals choose to be perverse, they spread the HIV virus with their indiscriminate sex lives, and they make a mockery of things such as marriage and the family.
the truth is…
You shouldn't pay heed to such nonsense. People like this always like to have a scapegoat.
some people think…
I wouldn't touch them with a barge pole. Bisexuals aren't really dykes/gays/straight and they'll mess you about.
the truth is…
Being bisexual doesn't mean that you can't be monogamous, or that you will be looking 'the other way' all the time. That's just as likely or unlikely in any sort of relationship.
