'How can I stop worrying about insignificant things all the time?'
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Q: I am really terrible for worrying about insignificant things all of the time and it's becoming obsessive. I've recently started university and my new friends have noticed my weird worrying and it annoys them. There are two main things that are worrying me, and when I tell people they don't really understand and look at me as if I'm crazy. First of all I worry terribly about my drink being spiked. Even though I keep an eye on my drink I fear that there is something in it. I get panicky when I'm out and it's ruined my social life. I waste drinks that I have only just bought in case they are spiked and just can't relax. Secondly, and even more stupidly, I am afraid that things I eat have got things in that they shouldn't have. So I waste food also, in fear of there being something harmful in the food. Please help me, because I don't think I can go on for much longer before my worrying destroys my relationships with the people around me and affects my health. Becca, 19 |
our online advisors reply:
It sounds like your anxiety and fear is having a major effect on your life and stopping you from doing the things you want to do. You've been going through a really rough time – it's good that you have asked for help.
People who suffer from anxiety, like you, learn to avoid situations which bring on nightmarish feelings. The problem is that by running away from the frightening situations or avoiding them altogether, you will keep yourself fearful and so become a prisoner of your own fear.
The worries are very real and very frightening, but it is possible to get back in control, no matter how long you have suffered from this anxiety. Part of this is learning to accept the fear, rather than fight it. This is not easy to do on your own but a lot more likely with support. It takes time but you will get through this.
The first person you could talk to is your doctor. It is important to explain your fear and how it is affecting your life in general. I'm wondering whether you have thought about seeing a counsellor. Talking to a qualified counsellor can help you make sense of your emotions and explore options for moving forwards. When you talk to a counsellor it is in complete confidence and they will not judge you or tell you what to do.
Some doctors' surgeries offer counselling and your GP may be able to set up an appointment for you. Alternatively, you can contact Youth Access. They will tell you about local counselling services for people aged 14 to 25. You can e-mail them on admin@youthaccess.org.uk.
If you would like to talk to someone you can contact SaneLine on 0845 767 8000 (Mon-Fri 12-11pm, Sat-Sun 12-6pm) or the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 (24 hours).
This article in our Mind section may be helpful to you. It includes self-help tips and there are lists of relevant organisations, websites and books at the end of the article.
I hope this helps.
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