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Week 2: Stuck in a Rut
Has having sex started to feel like a chore? Do you do it on the same nights of the week at the same time religiously? If so, then I'm afraid you could be suffering from a condition commonly known as 'a boring sex life.'
Other symptoms can include not sharing your fantasies with your partner, never trying anything different in the bedroom, and always having a headache at around 11pm. If the flames of passion that used to roar so wildly have gone out, or you'd rather tune in to Ground Force than turn on your erogenous zones these days then, I'm afraid, you're already affected. You swore it wouldn't happen to you, but inevitably, you're stuck in a sex rut that's become a dull routine. It sounds like scary diagnosis, but sex doesn't ever have to get this mediocre. Remember, monogamy doesn't have to mean monotony, so ask yourself honestly ' when was the last time I tried something new in the boudoir?' If you honestly can't remember, then I suggest that you book both you and your partner in for a serious sexual service, and give your love life a complete overhaul. The most common cause for having a boring sex life is good old-fashioned laziness. Sex (like everything) needs to be worked at, and the best sex in the world can become the worst without effort. Equally, unsatisfying sex can get better, but far more exciting with good communication. All you need is a little mental elbow grease, a pinch of time and few dirty thoughts. NOVICES: Make it your homework this week to try something different, even if it's minor. You need to break the cycle of monotony, and put a spanner in the works of routine. Do something spontaneous for once, and discover what a huge impact it can have. Treat you and your partner to some sexy new underwear, and model it for them. This is a fun way to de-stress from the hassles of the day and to concentrate more on what the night has to offer.
Make it your plan to set more time aside this week for talking together about sex. If you're currently spending zero time discussing it then even bringing the subject up will score you extra sex-points. Buying a lover's guide or manual is a great way to prompt that sexy chat. Use it for inspiration and discuss what you'd like to try, what fantasies you have, and how you could both incorporate them. You never know, you may have been living with a dominatrix all along. How cool would that be? ANYTHING GOES: Investing in some erotic literature or films together provides you with the ideal opportunity to talk about what you both want in the bedroom. Watch the film to get some new ideas and try acting out one of the scenes, invent your own role-play. Try adding sex toys, or for some real fun and games, try blindfolding each other to make it more of an exciting mystery. Bedtime shouldn't just be about Horlicks, Hobnobs and Heat magazine after all.
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