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Your Questions Answered
Day 30, 11:09
The mail just keeps coming in for our Agony Uncle and there have been some great letters this week. Thanks to everyone who emailed in and keep them coming as Matt is waiting to hear from you.
This week's letters have focused on loss of identity, pressure to drink or smoke, dealing with feelings of failure.
Here is Matt's reply to this week's Star Letter...
Dear Matt - Where's my independence?
I've been seeing the same bloke for years. I love him dearly, but sometimes I just feel like one half of a couple. We have the same friends and interests, and never do anything separately. I don't want to split up, but I am beginning to resent him for it. Help!
C
Matt's reply: It's clear you've let this bad feeling build, so it's important that you open up to your bloke about it. Stew any longer and you risk blowing your stack over a trivial issue.
Just look at Ray - a notable Diary Room dodger. He went berserk over a botched task, while both Fed and Tania have been the target of his over-the-top tizzies. If the Irishman would only talk to Big Brother more frequently, these little things wouldn't become such a big deal.
At the same time, you can learn from the housemates here. We may think of them as a group, but they're still individuals with lives beyond the four walls. What brought them together is a taste for a new experience, and this can only enrich their relationships when they finally head home.
There's no need to sign up for the next Big Brother to regain your sense of independence. You simply need to talk things over with your other half and make time for yourself. Just don't waste the opportunity by moping about like Nush with nothing to do.
Get off your sofa and grab the opportunity to get out and about. See old friends, grow veggies in your garden - anything! Make it boyfriend-free and you'll soon remember what makes you tick. He'll understand if he wants this relationship to be rewarding for you both. He may even make the most of the space himself.
Strike the right balance, and when you hang out together you'll be guaranteed quality time.
If you have a problem or question for Matt, email us and you could be next week's star letter.
Sorry, but Matt is unable to answer your questions personally.
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