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I am a married 25 year old. My husband is 20 years older than me. He has become unable to get and maintain an erection for some time and is unwilling to seek help. This is destroying our marriage. Please help.

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It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. Erection problems can be very embarrassing and upsetting for men and this may be why your husband does not want to get help.

Have you been able to discuss how you are feeling with your husband, and how his erection problems are affecting your relationship? Have you talked together about how it makes him feel to have problems with erections? Talking about these sorts of things can be very difficult but is probably an important step in helping your husband feel ready to ask for help.

It may help for you - and your husband if he is willing - to have a look at the following pages from the NetDoctor website. The first is about men with erection problems talking to their partner. The second is about talking to your doctor.

www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ed_partner.htm
www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/ed_doctor.htm

There's no indication in your question of possible causes for the problem. The following link has lots of information about the causes and treatment of erectile dysfunction:

http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/Mosby_factsheets/Impotence.html

There is also an article about new treatments in the sex magazine of the C4 Health House. To read it click here

For information about erection failure, you could try contacting the Impotence Association. It runs a confidential helpline (weekdays) offering advice and assistance on male and female sexual dysfunction. The number is 020 8767 7791. There is also a website at www.impotence.org.uk.

I hope this helps, and good luck.

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